Dogs Are Smarter Than People: Writing Life, Marriage and Motivation

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January 25, 2022 00:16:46
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Hiding Your Boobs Is Your Body Language Your Own Worst Friend Six Hot Tips About Better NonVerbal Communication

Friends, sometimes your body is putting out a message that you might not want out there. What am I talking about? Well, here we go. Shaun is a big, tall, broad-shouldered, thin-lipped man with large eyes and a large presence. When he crosses those strong forearms across his trunk and stands against a wall at a party, he is definitely sending a message to everyone glancing his way. And what’s that message? Go away. Carrie is a short, buxom woman who tends to hug her purse to her chest whenever she’s sitting down at a restaurant or at a poker table. She’s definitely sending a message too. And what’s that message? Carrie is super insecure about everything and she’s clutching her purse like a baby blanket. Neither of these are really the messages we intend to send. Shaun is just trying (usually) not to take up too much room. Carrie’s trying to hide her chest because that’s what she’s mostly insecure about. It’s hard when people stare at your breasts all the time. But the point here is that we aren’t always cognizant of the messages that our bodies are putting out. It has been suggested that body language may account for between 60 to 65% of all communication.Verywellmind citing Foley GN, Gentile JP. Nonverbal communication in psychotherapy. Psychiatry (Edgmont). 2010;7(6):38-44. And sometimes we can’t control what we’re putting out. That same article cites a study by Kleisner, Chvátalová, and Flegr which says, One study found that individuals who had narrower faces and more prominent noses were more likely to be perceived as intelligent. People with smiling, joyful expression were also judged as being ...

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January 18, 2022 00:16:26
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Pot Brownies in Senior Centers and Be The Rock and Live with Intention

Lately, a lot of Carrie’s writers have been talking about how they want to write with intention and that always makes Carrie’s brain hitch a bit, which is why we’re doing this podcast, a slightly deep dive into intention. According to Merriam-Webster’s Dictionary, intention means the thing that you plan to do or achieve : an aim or purpose And over at a site all about spiritual wellbeing appropriately called Blissful Light, Intention is probably one of the most essential parts of healing, abundance, manifestation, personal and spiritual development.  Whoa, right? That’s a lot to put on one word or one state of being. Healing. Abundance. Manifestation. Personal AND spiritual development. It almost makes you tired to just think about it. And it’s also a lot of . . . words. Abstract words. And over here on Dogs are Smarter Than People, we’re not really big on abstractions. So, we’re going to break it down a bit for you in real world terms. You want a hot dog. You find money. You go to a store. You buy a hot dog. You make a decision: buy a hot dog. You do the actions: find money, go to store, buy dog. Intention works the same way. You have to decide what you want and then you have to take the steps to get what you want. Sometimes the deciding is the hardest part. It’s like when you go to the grocery store in the U.S. before COVID and there is an entire aisle full of cereal choices. Your brain balks. So much cereal! Too much choice. Wheatabix or Captain Crunch? Co-co-puffs or corn flakes? You can get stuck. Back in ...

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January 13, 2022 00:23:55
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Sublime Steampunk. Author Interview with Tony Quintana

I was lucky enough to interview the brilliant, young, amazing and talented Tony Quintana, writer of wonder. Tony! Tony talks about how he uses his perfectionism to motivate him, how his background in theater and art helped create Dashiel’s world, and how he began his debut novel in Spanish, only to decide to translate it all by himself into English. It’s a magical story and a magical book that began when he was just fifteen! I hope you’ll check out the podcast and Tony’s amazing book! I mean seriously, just check out the art that it’s inspired. ...

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January 11, 2022 00:16:34
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Man, Are You Toxic? How to Start to Get Over It

So, this week in our attempt to make your life a little bit better, we’re talking about being toxic and we are specifically talking about men being toxic. And to do that we first have to define what toxic masculinity is. Maya Salem in a 2019 NYT article writes that it’s: Hiding your emotions, pretending you aren’t upsetMaking sure everyone thinks you’re hard. (not your muscles, but your brain/soul/emotions)Violence=toughness=powerful “In other words: Toxic masculinity is what can come of teaching boys that they can’t express emotion openly; that they have to be “tough all the time”; that anything other than that makes them “feminine” or weak. (No, it doesn’t mean that all men are inherently toxic.)”Salem But toxic masculinity is more than that. It’s a set of beliefs that a lot of men believe about themselves and that a lot of women believe about them, too. What are those damn, stupid beliefs. According to Dr. Axe, they are things like (all the italicized below is a direct quote, but the format in the notes is hitching: Manhood is defined by violence, sex, status and aggression.Men should not be interested in “feminine things” because this makes them appear weakMen shouldn’t display “feminine” traits such as emotional vulnerability.Men and women can never truly understand each other or just be friends, for reasons like men are always interested in sex.Real men are strong and don’t show emotional signs of shame or weakness.Anger and violence are useful ways of solving conflicts.Men are not suited to be single parents/the dominant parent in a family. So, you might recognize some of those beliefs in yourselves or in others, rights? And it’s kind of a lot of bullshit. You can be ...

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January 04, 2022 00:16:18
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Porn is Taking Over Your Life.  How to be Successful in 2022

Hey! We’re going to start the year off right by talking about porn. What the what? And this is your year to give up porn. And no. We aren’t talking about erotica. We’re talking about what self-help guru Tim Denning calls “addictive habits.” He uses the word porn to grab attention (it works if you’re here) and explain how these addictions are everywhere. He then categorizes all the different types of porn we have. There’s lifestyle porn – sitting on the toilet and whipping out your phone. There’s money porn – always being on your phone or laptop so that you can earn that “100,000 in five months,” always reading the article or watching the podcast to figure out how to make that money super quickly. There’s startup porn, which is basically being addicted to starting new businesses so you can get that money. There’s revenge porn where you are a mean punk on social media, hurting people’s feelings in comments, subtweets, or messages. There’s real porn. We don’t need to explain that, right? There’s influencer porn where you are all about your brand and selfish instead of giving. I think there are a lot more addictions than that. There’s the: Diet Addiction You think you’ll be happy if you just lose that 40 pounds but you keep hopping from one diet to another. The Outside Photos Addiction You think everyone wants to see your vista photos. Television, Video, and Gaming Addictions You spend all your time consuming other people’s content and escaping. Escaping is fantastic, but you don’t want to do it all the time. Denning writes: “The secret to kill all forms of porn is discipline.“Discipline yourself to focus on what you know is good for you.“You have a list of habits already ...

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January 01, 2022 01:15:25
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New Year's Weirdness

It’s supposed to be all about the weird that is the tradition of New Year, celebrations, superstitions, and resolutions. It ended up being about Shaun’s naughty New Years at Benigans in Florida because what happens in Florida doesn’t stay in Florida. LINKS WE MENTION https://www.thepossumdrop.com/about-the-possum-drop-our-history.html https://www.history.com/topics/holidays/new-years https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/life/parenting/g25360543/new-year-traditions/ ...

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