RANDOM THINGS YOU LEARN ABOUT EACH OTHER DURING LOCKDOWN
So, in this house we’ve learned a few random things that we didn’t know before we had to isolate ourselves because of the Covid-19 pandemic and these things include some things that were mentioned on Buzzfeed and some that weren’t including:
So, while we were checking that out we also saw that Buzzfeed had this other article called, “17 Delicious Cookout Recipes That Will Impress Your Southern Friends" and the first thing we thought was, “Do I have southern friends?” And then we remembered we have an entire Southern family and then we were ashamed.
Did the writer think Northern people don’t have BBQ pulled pork, buttermilk fried chicken, BBQ baby back ribs, corn on the cob, fried fish, burgers, baked mac and cheese normally? And why would Southern people be more impressed by that than Northerners?
Like where did this regionally specific food divide even come from? The only southern thing that was on there that Carrie (from the North) didn’t grow up with were collard greens. She even had peach ice tea. Albeit, it was the Snapple kind.
They had baked beans on there. Dudes, they are called Boston Baked Beans for a reason. They had potato salad on there! It made no sense!
And someone in the comments actually wrote: “This post should probably be changed to the perfect SOUTHERN cookout. Most of these things aren't gonna fly at a cookout in Maine!”
And Carrie lost her chill.
All you all, don’t talk about Maine if you’ve never been here. Similarly, give shout-outs to the origins and history of the foods that you’re blogging about because erasure isn’t a cool thing and that goes for socio-economic erasure and ethnic erasure. The foods of different cultures sustain us, build us, bind us, and also reflect our histories–the good and horrible parts.
When you write about regions, think about it from more than your perspective. When you want to add some authenticity into your stories, think about the strange things you learn about your own house and family during lockdowns. Those details and nuance? That’s what makes a story authentic, not a bullshit blog post about how to impress your Southern friends at a cookout or a food post about Kimchi that never mentions it’s a Korean food.
Be smart. Be detailed. Be full of empathy, but don’t be so full of yourself that you forget the backs and lives and hearts of the people who came before you. That goes not just for writers, but for regular humans, too.
Dogs are all about origins and details. According to Sparrty, our dog, “We dogs smell poop the way sommeliers smell wine.”
It’s all about the nuance. Be about the nuance not the generalization. That’s true about writing and thinking. Smell the bouquet, appreciate the differences.
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My new book, IN THE WOODS, is out!
It’s with Steve Wedel. It’s scary and one of Publisher’s Weekly’s Buzz Books for Summer 2019. There’s an excerpt of it there and everything! But even cooler (for me) they’ve deemed it buzz worthy! Buzz worthy seems like an awesome thing to be deemed!
In our random thoughts we talk all about drinking each other's blood. Thanks, Megan Fox and MGK. Here's the rest of the podcast though. So, this is going to be a short podcast because we’re going to give you some super simple advice this week. Ready? BLOW OFF YOUR PHONE Your phone rings? You don’t recognize the phone number? Don’t answer it. Seriously. Every single time your phone rings and it’s not a number you know, it means it could be a spammer wasting your time. More than that though, each of those calls in an interruption that you aren’t expecting and you aren’t wanting. Even if it’s someone awesome, you aren’t in a position to deal with that call to the best of your ability. Make them leave a message. If it’s important, they will. CHECK OUR EMAILS TWO OR THREE TIMES A DAY, NOT AN HOUR The same thing goes for email programs. Don’t check it all the time. It’s a distraction. Yes, sometimes the emails are super important, but most of the time it’s Texas Tamales telling you that you have only twenty-four hours left to get a fantastic deal that includes queso. You have to prioritize your to-do list and your time. For that reason, don't check that email first thing in the morning either. Get something else that is super important done. DOG TIP FOR LIFE Constant distractions make you lose your goal. SHOUT OUT! The music we’ve clipped and shortened in this podcast is awesome and is made available through the Creative Commons License. Here’s a link to that and the artist’s website. Who is this artist and what is this song? It’s “Summer Spliff” by Broke For Free. AND we are transitioning to a new writer ...
Don’t Fall for the Write What You Know BS So, I just realized that we don’t have the word WRITING in our podcast, which makes us not niche enough and is a total branding f-up. Oops. A little too late now. Anyway, our concept is that we’re just these random married people who give writing tips and life tips via the filter of our two adorable rescue dogs and our own quirky weirdness. We figured if people found us? So be it. But if we had done a tiny bit of research we would have probably named the podcast DOGS ARE SMARTER THAN WRITERS or something to get the damn writing word in here. There’s a weird danger of not thinking quite enough about who your listeners are and this is true for your readers, too, right? But there’s also a weird danger in taking writing advice like WRITE WHAT YOU KNOW and think it’s an edict that Shaun can only write about tall, white, CIS, ex-cops from Florida who now live in Maine or that Carrie can only write about short, quirky authors from New Hampshire who have no clue who they really are. So, we’re going to break down that phrase for you. Write what you know doesn’t mean only write about someone exactly like yourself. Write what you know means: Write about settings that you can accurately describe well so readers can feel them and experience them, too. Write dialogue that you can hear in your head coming from characters who have different speech patterns and mannerisms. Write about emotions that you feel or can understand. If I only wrote what I knew, I’d never write a book about pixies almost causing an apocalypse or a cheerleader who ...
So, now that we’re into the helpful part of the podcast and no longer talking about women in love with the alligators that attacked them or dogs and cats breaking records together, we thought we’d take a quick look at a big grammar mistake. And that’s when INTO is one word or two. Is it . . . Dude, I am so into you. Or is it . . . Dude, I am so in to you. Here’s how it works. INTO all as one word is a preposition, which means it’s showing MOVEMENT of one thing to another thing. But IN TO (two words) has two grammatical bits going on right there. The IN is an adverb and the TO is the preposition. And they aren’t like snuggled up in bed like a cohabitating couple, they just tend to show up in the sentence next to each other. Here are some examples: INTO as one word: Baby, I made it into the office today, but only just barely because… cough… you know. Lordie, look what Santa put into your stocking. That alligator went into that woman’s head, man, like took total control. INTO usually tells you WHERE something is happening. IN TO as two words Look, I am standing in to make a statement to our senator. Santa came in to say a hearty hello. The dog and cat rode in to break that record on that damn scooter. IN TO usually can be substituted with IN ORDER TO. Easy, right? Consider yourself grammatical. WRITING TIP OF THE POD Two words are different than one. DOG TIP FOR LIFE Sometimes taking chances pays off (like when you jump on a scooter with a cat) and sometimes it doesn’t (like when you bite your handler’s hand). Choose your risks ...