This past weekend was sort of scary.
Carrie's worst case scenario of presenting happened. She was scheduled to give a four-hour seminar on public image, but when she arrived the place wasn't unlocked, there was no water, but worse- there was no A/V. It was not pretty. And then...
We went to a party, a SNL-themed party, and because our friends are good at peer pressure and we were dressed as Spartan cheerleaders, we stunted and Carrie had to jump on Shaun's back in a short skirt (with modesty shorts!) and she was so nervous that she actually got sweaty. So, it turns out that Carrie was totally afraid to do a cheering stunt.
Carrie: This is because I am old and have broken knees.
And Shaun had to face his fear by actually performing the cheer.
Writing (like living) can be full of fear. Over on The Write Practice, Jeff Elkins tells of "Three Tricks to Overcome Your Fear of Writing." How does he deal with the fear?
And he also has this awesome idea for desensitizing yourself from fear, which is our .....
Take fifteen minutes to write something that scares you. Maybe it’s a scene you’ve been avoiding in your work in progress, maybe it’s a story you’ve been nervous to start, or maybe it’s a letter you’re scared to write. As you work, if fear raises its head, try one of the techniques above to work through it. - Jeff Elkins
DOG TIP FOR LIFE:
Dogs have all kinds of fears just like people do. When dogs have fears, we use treats to encourage them for brave behavior, we don't force them out of their safe places, and we don't shove their fear in their face and shout "GET OVER IT, BUDDY."
Because that's not cool.
We deserve to give ourselves the same respect. Reward yourself for being brave, don't insist on pushing yourself into your fear too hard and too fast.
The music we’ve clipped and shortened in this podcast is awesome and is made available through the Creative Commons License. Here’s a link to that and the artist’s website. Who is this artist and what is this song? It’s “Night Owl” by Broke For Free.
It's out! You can order my middle grade fantasy novel Time Stoppers Escape From the Badlands here or anywhere. People call it a cross between Harry Potter and Percy Jackson but it's set in Maine. It's full of adventure, quirkiness and heart.
The Spy Who Played Baseball is a picture book biography about Moe Berg. And... there's a movie out now about Moe Berg, a major league baseball player who became a spy. How cool is that? It's awesome and quirky and fun.
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So, over at the Good Men Project, they have a story called “Five Traits Men Want in a Partner That We Never Say Out Loud.” As a woman, I (Carrie) find this pretty frustrating. Why do men not say these things aloud? Paul Marsh of the Good Men Project writes: Most of us are just terrified of vocalizing what we want and 1) being laughed at or ridiculed in some capacity, 2) not having our desires taken seriously, or 3) not getting whatever it is we’re seeking. Marsh’s article which is anecdotal and not data-sourced is saying similar things as an earlier article in 2015 by Anthony D’Ambrosio that was in Elite Daily. D’Ambrosio had seven traits/characteristics to Marsh’s five. Marsh writes: The world is realizing that, while we’re deeply flawed, men also have a sensitive side, one chock-full of rich emotions that extend beyond those usually associated with us — like anger. Even companies like Old Spice are rolling out scented bodywashes with lavender and other naturally-derived ingredients that have long been associated with femininity. Here is what Marsh says that men want: TendernessGlobal listening skillsA kind talkerRespect which he defines as “being considerate about the desires, feelings, and traits of another personSomeone who ‘fights for you.’ D’Ambrosio’s article has reliability and being a best friend on the list as well as being self-aware and a communicator (kind talker and listener). He writes: Remember: You don’t need a “life partner,” ...
None of us are perfect with the grammar, especially not us native-English speakers. We’ve got all these words that mean totally different things but sound EXACTLY THE SAME! And today, we here on Dogs are Smarter Than People are going to do things. Prove that dogs are smarter than people because they don’t have to spell.Help you all out about a five-some of evil. Yes, I’m talking about Aah, ah, ahh, aw, and awe. I know you’ve all seen it on Facebook. Someone you love writes, “Awe (a-w-e) that’s so cutie.” And you’re like, “No! Agh. I don’t want to be evil and tell them but they are using the wrong spelling here.” Let’s get started. Aah! Is an interjection. It’s like a giant mosquito as big as a velociraptor is hovering in front of your nose. You are afraid. Aah is what we use for those moments. It has a super close relative – Ah! Ah is an interjection, too. But this time you aren’t expressing fear; this time you are expressing love, surprise, pleasure, a realization. “Ah! I now understand that was not a mosquito but was actually an Amazon delivery drone.” And then we have their lovely relative, Ahh. Ahh is when you get something or you accept something. Ahh, I do love you and your way with drones. Ahh, this is how the world works, you act like a narcissist ...
In this podcast’s Random Thought of the Pod, we tell the story of Gabby the Dog who has an aversion to people who have dabbled with cocaine and also talk about Carrie’s quest to be alpha. But the writing tips are here: Heroes have to do a lot in your story. Not only do they have to save the damn day, they also have to make you care about them while they do it. I know. I know! Saving the day should honestly be enough, but it isn’t. We readers want our heroes to be human so that we can relate to them, which is why we writers try to give them a moment of humanity near the beginning of the book. What is this moment? It is the moment that the reader falls in love with the hero. Caring moments Goofy moments Quirky AF moments Universal moments that we can all relate to. Writing Tip of the Cast You have to be alpha in your own book. Make your characters work. Be firm in your decisions and choices. Dog Tip For Life There’s no one right way to be. Embrace who you are, who you want to be. And if you want everyone to fall in love with you? That’s how you do it. Be authentic. Don’t pretend to be a cat. Embrace your dogness Writing News The Spy Who Played Baseball is a picture book biography about Moe Berg. And… there’s a movie out now about Moe Berg, a major league baseball player who became a spy. How cool is that? You should totally buy Carrie’s book about Moe. It’s awesome and quirky and fun. She’s ...