Money Is Not the Enemy and the Habits of the Rich

May 12, 2020 00:25:15
Money Is Not the Enemy and the Habits of the Rich
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Money Is Not the Enemy and the Habits of the Rich

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So apparently millionaires have habits that us non-millionaire people don’t have. 

These habits don’t include taking a bath in $100 bills even though that would be cool. The habits aren’t quite that sexy. 

So before we get started, we just wanted to remind you that prosperity doesn’t equal merit. The richest people sure as hell aren’t the best people, the kindest people, or the most ethical people. They are the richest. That’s it. Some of them are nice. Some are douchebags. Some are in between.

But prosperity is super intriguing right now because a lot of us are a bit struggling to figure out how to survive and if that’s you, we get it. But we want you to do more than struggle, we want you to feel secure. 

In Lifehack, Dr. Carol Morgan has an article entitled “8 Ways of Thinking To Make You Become Rich.” 

Her ideas are mostly about belief mindsets. 

So some of these ideas are pretty chill. Like “believe you are worthy.” Presidents are very good at this – presidents from both parties, actually and all the candidates. 

The rest of us humans and especially writers? Not so much. 

Don’t think about how you suck or how you aren’t a YouTube star or J.K. Rowling or whatever. You need to believe in yourself and that you have something to offer this damn world. What you offer is what will make you wealthier. 

Writers have a hard time with this. 

Then you have to go another step and believe that you can actually do it.  Yep. You have to believe you have worth and then believe you can make things happen. 

Be grateful that you are alive still. Hopefully, you have some food. So don’t only focus on what you want, but be delighted by what you have. Delight is a much cooler word than gratitude one of my author friends just said. I believe her. 

I feel like the doctor who wrote this article might be saying this because she’s rich. But socio-economic status should never be a deciding factor in why you think someone is evil. How they act or don’t act? Those are better reasons. 

Make a vison board or say happy mantras or make a Pinterest page or something. All last year I wrote down the things I wanted. I did this every day in the morning. Some of them are coming true. 

Not really, but don’t hate it. That hate-attitude isn’t going to attract the money. Plus, like Dr. Morgan says a lot of people go around saying that they hate money, but “That doesn’t mean that they really HATE money. They just hate the LACK of money.” 

Okay, she didn’t say it this way, but instead of being negative about it, think about how freaking lucky you are to be able to pay those damn bills and not having the creditor come or your car repo’d. Baby, that’s sexy. 

Yep, that’s right commitment phobes. You want to commit to lining that bank account with the green and gold. Be focused. Go after it. Commit. 

How about some slightly more practical advice? 

Make a budget. Know the money coming in and out. 

Chip away at your debt. Because that interest rate is pulling you down and making you cement. 

Don’t have all your income coming in from one place because crap like pandemics happen. 

Be cool with spending money on yourself to build skills

Do What You’re Good At. 

Remember even the biggest things can fail and that’s okay. But what’s not okay is stasis, not trying. 

“I have had many struggles through this coronavirus experience — but the areas where I have not struggled are the places I have rehearsed what might happen.”

Tim Ferriss

Writing Tip of the Pod

It’s hard when you get rejected to keep believing in yourself, but you have to. You have to keep trying. And deep down in your core? That’s where you know it’s going to happen. Make it happen. 

Dog Tip for Life. 

Get your stuff wherever you can. Trash cans. Litter boxes. Begging. Don't depend on one source.


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Last week’s episode link. 

A bonus interview with Dr. J.L. Delozier, Pennsylvania doctor and writer. 

bonus interview with poet and coach Fiona Mackintosh Cameron. 

A bonus interview with Jose De La Roca, podcaster, writer, comedian, actor, dad. Link to Jose’s interview.


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