Making Life Changing Moments and Booby Free Day

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Making Life Changing Moments and Booby Free Day
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Making Life Changing Moments and Booby Free Day

Hosted By

Carrie Jones Shaun Farrar

Show Notes

There is an article over on Medium that annoyed Carrie, which to be fair, Medium articles by self-professed self-help gurus often do.


It's not because the guy has 250,000 followers, she swears. It's just because he's a bro-looking white guy regurgitating other people's stuff.

And here's the thing. To make impact, you don't want to vomit up other people's books or thoughts. You want to be your own person.

In New Hampshire literary circles of the 1970s and 1980s there was a dynamic poetry husband and wife duo of Donald Hall and Jane Kenyon. They were nothing alike in their poetry and Donald usually received a lot more kudos, but Jane? She made her moments.

I'll always remember my Aunt Maxine introducing me to Jane when I was eight or something and saying, "She is a spectacular poet." She pretty much gasped it all out because she was so enthralled.

I always wanted to be gasp worthy, honestly--in a good way, right?

So, there's a piece in the National Book Review by Mike Pride that talks a bit about Jane (who died at just 47) where it talks about how her husband dealt with people being stupid about the difference between their poems and styles.

"Hall reacted when anyone suggested that he was a poet of big ideas while his wife wrote sweet and simple poems. “Yeah,” he’d say, “her style is a glass of water – a 100-proof glass of water.”

There is a tendency for us all to look away from the moments, the truths of our lives and existence and instead go for those superlative, larger than life moments, stories, celebrities, all that b.s.

But here's the thing-- even Captain America has to go poo. Even bigger-than-life people whose stories are cultivated for our consumption also have those smaller moments.

It's not about the 250,000 followers. It's about you making each moment, each interaction count.

And sometimes to do that you have to look and see how those moments have happened to you before.

Have you ever had a moment where your understanding of the world changed? An epiphany?

When was the last time you felt at the top of your game?

When was the last time you tried something new?

When was the last time you risked your reputation for your beliefs?

A lot of those moments have big emotions with them, right? And sometimes we get scared of those big emotions and when that happens? We can't take risks because we're afraid of the emotions and change that might come with those risks. Even when that change is positive, it's something different, something new and that can be super scary for a lot of us.

But you've got to keep trying and dreaming and learning and being brave in order for cool things to happen.

How do you do this?
  1. Think about what you really really want to happen in your life?
  2. Make sure that this is something that you morally feel cool about. Don't want to be an assassin if you're against killing.
  3. Make sure what you want feels like it gives you purpose.
  4. Put in the time. Decisions don't mean crap if you don't actually put the action steps and time into that choice. Authors make our characters all the time. It isn't enough for Captain America to go save the world. He has to take a super serum, learn how to fight and throw a shield, locate the bad guy. That goes for us, too.

Jane Kenyon wrote in “Afternoon at MacDowell,” when Donald Hall had cancer (she was the actual one to die of it first),

After music and poetry we walk to the car. I believe in the miracles of art, but what prodigy will keep you safe beside me, fumbling with the radio while you drive to find late innings of a Red Sox game?

A poet becomes a poet by investing the time to see the things in life, the moments and twists and epiphanies and connections, that the rest of us not always see, but more than that. They take the moment and let it resonate.

That's what we all need to do. We need to become the poets of our lives, making our moments by choice and action.



The music we’ve clipped and shortened in this podcast is awesome and is made available through the Creative Commons License. 

Here’s a link to that and the artist’s website. Who is this artist and what is this song?  It’s “Summer Spliff” by Broke For Free.

AND we are transitioning to a new writer podcast called WRITE BETTER NOW! You'll be able to check it out here starting in 2022!

We have a podcast, LOVING THE STRANGE, which we stream live on Carrie’s Facebook and Twitter and LinkedIn on Fridays. Her Facebook and Twitter handles are all carriejonesbooks or carriejonesbook.

Carrie is reading one of her poems every week on CARRIE DOES POEMS. And there you go! Whew! That's a lot!

Here’s the link.

Write Better Now - Writing Tips podcast for authors and writers loving the strange the podcast about embracing the weird Carrie Does Poems

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