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Perfectionists aren’t perfect people. They are almost always miserable people. Seriously. Think about it. There’s no such thing as perfect and if you are constantly trying to achieve perfection? What happens? Misery happens. This is true for your life and for your writing. The sad news is that a lot of writers are perfectionists, which means they are miserable. There’s this great article on the Verywell Mind that has the 10 signs that you might be a perfectionist. But here are some of the signs: Signs of Perfectionism All-Or-Nothing Thinking – You can only accept perfection, your goal, nothing else will do. Critical Eye – Tiny mistakes are the kingdom of your land and you fixate on them. “Push” vs “Pull” – According to the article, perfectionist are “pushed toward their goals by a fear of not reaching them.” But high achieving people? They are happy making steps towards the goals and not constantly worrying/stressing about not getting there yet. Unrealistic Standards – Your goal to be God is ridiculous. That’s basically all this is. Your goal is to be the ultimate at something, something that is not possible. And you know it, but you still make that your goal. Focusing on Only Results – You don’t care about the process of getting there. Depressed by Unmet Goals – What is this thing called happiness? Perfectionists have a hard time knowing this thing. Fear of Failure – It is overwhelming and it starts to taint everything perfectionists do. Procrastination – Elizabeth Scott puts this in her article and phrases it so well, “This is because, fearing failure as they do, perfectionists will sometimes worry so ...
What is A troll? A troll is someone who is a poop. No! No. Sorry, let's try to be a bit more academic here. WHY DO THEY TROLL? All trolls are different and everything is a generalization but usually because they are bored and want some attention. Don't Feed Them It's incredibly hard not to feed the trolls, especially if they're attacking your friends or fans. But even if you aren't a massively well published author with a fan base of 5 million trillion (cough) you can still attract the attention of people who want negative attention. Don't give it to them. The more you feed the troll, the louder and lively and bigger they get. It's like Pinocchio's nose growing every time he lied. Every time you respond to a troll, they get bigger and stronger. Have Rules To Deal With Trolls Carrie has procedures where she almost always ignores trolls. She blocks or bans them from her feeds if they are spouting hatred or doing a lot of hate language. If she knows them in person or if she's interacted with them before in a positive way, she gives them a warning. If they react with hate or continue, she blocks or bans them. She has banned other published authors before. She has banned people that she's given gifts to. It's hard, but because she has ...
Carrie’s teaching a class at the Writing Barn for the next six weeks about . . . character! That means we’re talking a lot about character in our house. Of course, we’re also being characters because being characters is more fun than talking about them. It’s like the difference between telling in your writing and showing. And in the writing world one of the big annoying things writers hear about their characters is that the character is “too static, man.” What’s it mean to be too static? It means that the character isn’t growing or changing. The opposite of a static character is a dynamic character. That’s a character that grows and evolves. In most stories (but not all) our protagonists grow and change and are dynamic dynamos. They are characters we root for or follow, right? The evil miser who hates Christmas becomes a generous benefactor. A little boy wizard who hides under the stairs becomes a wizard leader in the fight against darkness. But if you think about the James Patterson series’s protagonists, most of them are like Sherlock Holmes and they don’t really grow and change. They are pretty consistent a lot of times. And then there is the bad guy/antagonist. Some editors will want your bad guy to grow and be dynamic too, but a lot of times those baddies and a lot of your side/secondary characters will be pretty consistent and static. Think Hannibal Lecter. Think Gaston in Disney’s Beauty and the Beast. What can you use static characters for? To be foils to the main character. To make fun of tropes and stereotypes or shallow people in society. To get pulled along in the main character’s fun. To sometimes have contradictory goals that create ...