Am I the Butt Face? How to Make (and be) a Likeable Character

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Am I the Butt Face? How to Make (and be) a Likeable Character
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Am I the Butt Face? How to Make (and be) a Likeable Character
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Carrie Jones Shaun Farrar

Show Notes

Why Do People Suck So Much?

 

One of the biggest things you hear in the world of writing is to make your character likeable, which is great and all but gives you two questions: 

 

  1. How. How do you make your characters likable?
  2. How do you make your characters likable when in real life people suck so much? There’s an entire Reddit thread called “Am I the A-Hole?” 

 

We talk about the second question in our RANDOM THOUGHT in the podcast, so the writer-helpful stuff is here, now. Ready? 

 

What Do the Bad Guys Care About?

 

Usually they are propelled by greed or power. In our society those things are usually indicative of a bad guy. Although, some segments of our society seem to laud those traits now. 

 

What Do We Have to Do to Make Our Characters (or our selves) Not the Bad Guy?

 

People want to care about the character. You automatically think that means the character is nice, right? No. 

 

Think about those Marvel movies. Iron Man’s kind of a jerk. Sherlock Holmes? Jerk. But we still like and care about them. Why? 

 

Here is What You Need To Do To Make Your Character Not an Butt Face

 

The character has a big want and/or need.

 

Iron Man wants to save the world. 

 

Sherlock Holmes needs to catch a murderer. 

 

We connect with that because we all have wants or needs. 

 

I want to make $5,000 a month. This possibly make me a bad guy because that seems to be about money BUT if I want to make $5,000 a month so that I can pay for my child with autism’s medicines? Not quite so awful, right? It’s all in the presentation and the reason. 

 

Conflicting Wants are What Really Makes It Pop

 

When our character wants to save the world, but saving the world mean that he must sacrifice his entire business that he’s worked so hard to build up? That’s when our interest is super EXCITED. We’re all – Oh. Snap. What will he choose? What would I choose? 

 

Caring About Others Who Are More Vulnerable

 

This is the big one, really.

 

In the Star Wars movies, Rey is super snarky with the little droid when we first meet her, but then she refuses to sell that little droid baby for scrap money and protects it. Bing. We love this resilient go-getter named Rey who now has conflicting wants of her own survival (needs money) and protecting the droid (probably going to cost her money and her life). 

 

So, we care about Rey because she cares. She has empathy. 

 

What are the characteristics people admire in others? 

 

Authenticity

 

Caring

 

Kindness

 

Empathy

 

Bravery

 

Charisma

 

Loyalty

 

Give your character one of those if you can. 

 

Give them a Wicked Sad, Sob-Story Life Before the Story

 

Harry Potter? Orphan. 

 

Rey? Orphan. 

 

Captain America? Orphan. 

 

Iron Man? Orphan.

 

Luke Skywalker? Orphan. 

 

Captain Kirk? Orphan. 

 

James in James and the Giant Peach? Orphan. 

 

Do you see a pattern? Characters WHO HAVE HAD a background full of grief or pain or sadness, we’re more likely to love them. You grieve for them. You want to feed them. You root for them.

 

Write in the First Person or the Close Third Person Point of View. 

 

When we see what the characters do and why they do it, how they think, what they feel, then it’s easier to feel, think, relate and be like them.

 

WRITING TIP OF THE POD:

 

Make your character a lovable orphan who cares about others, basically. 

DOG TIP FOR LIFE:

 

Move beyond your sad story. Realize that someone out there is going to make you the villain in their story and try not to care about that. Just do little moment of goodness. Do them over and over again. 

 

Random Thought:

 

In the audio of the podcast, we talk about

 

 

SHOUT OUT

 

The music we’ve clipped and shortened in this podcast is awesome and is made available through the Creative Commons License. Here’s a link to that and the artist’s website. Who is this artist and what is this song?  It’s “Night Owl” by Broke For Free.

 

 

WRITING NEWS

 

THE NETHERLANDS IS AWESOME

 

Steve Wedel and I wrote a super creepy book a few years back called After Obsession and it’s making a big freaking splash in the amazing Netherlands thanks to Dutch Venture Publishing and its leader Jen Minkman. 

 

Check out this spread in a Dutch magazine. I met a whole bunch of Dutch readers last Friday and let me tell you? They are the best. 

 

 

Learn With Me at the Writing Barn!

 

The Write. Submit. Support. format is designed to embrace all aspects of the literary life. This six-month course will offer structure and support not only to our writing lives but also to the roller coaster ride of submissions: whether that be submitting to agents or, if agented, weathering the submissions to editors. We will discuss passes that come in, submissions requests, feedback we aren’t sure about, where we are feeling directed to go in our writing lives, and more. Learn more here!

 

“Carrie’s feedback is specific, insightful and extremely helpful. She is truly invested in helping each of us move forward to make our manuscripts the best they can be.”

 

“Carrie just happens to be one of those rare cases of extreme talent and excellent coaching.”

 

IN THE WOODS – READ AN EXCERPT, ORDER NOW!

 

My new book, IN THE WOODS, is out!

 

Gasp! 

 

It’s with Steve Wedel. It’s scary and one of Publisher’s Weekly’s Buzz Books for Summer 2019. There’s an excerpt of it there and everything! But even cooler (for me) they’ve deemed it buzz worthy! Buzz worthy seems like an awesome thing to be deemed! 

 

You can order this bad boy, which might make it have a sequel. The sequel would be amazing. Believe me, I know. It features caves and monsters and love. Because doesn’t every story?

 

In the Woods
In the Woods

 


ART NEWS

 

You can buy limited-edition prints and learn more about my art here on my site. 

 

 

PATREON OF AWESOME

 

You can get exclusive content, early podcasts, videos, art and listen (or read) never-to-be-officially published writings of Carrie on her Patreon. Levels go from $1 to $100 (That one includes writing coaching and editing for you wealthy peeps). 

 

Check it out here. 

 

WHAT IS PATREON? 

 

A lot of you might be new to Patreon and not get how it works. That’s totally cool. New things can be scary, but there’s a cool primer HERE that explains how it works. The short of it is this: You give Patreon your paypal or credit card # and they charge you whatever you level you choose at the end of each month. That money supports me sharing my writing and art and podcasts and weirdness with you. 

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